And believe me, I tried living the life my parents wanted by staying close to home, living with a committed partner, and having a normal 40 hour job. But I only got more bitter and restless as time went by. And then I realized I was trying to live their ideal life, and not mine.
Each individual has a different set of values. There is no superior set of values. It is not my place to tell Hannah she is living life wrong because her set of ideals make me feel itchy and throw up in my mouth a little. It is definitely not her place to tell nomads they are living life wrong because they don’t live life like a “normal” person.
I read 52 books last year, 25 of them being educational. I travel AND read and even smarter and wiser for doing both ?? And thanks to the lucky life I have built for myself, I can speak from my experience – reading a guidebook about a country is vastly different from actually going to that country and experiencing it for yourself.
I have been unable to stay in one place in the last 2 years. I get the ‘are you like a nomad, can’t stay in a place for too long?’ question constantly. At my age (40’s), most ppl are misstravel coupons well rooted and don’t want to invest in someone ‘flighty’ or change their lifestyle. So I have accepted that I will probably always be alone unless I become a tree. But I have made peace with that, and I have always been mostly a loner so it’s not a big deal. I miss affection and yes, sex. But I’d rather have my freedom. Enjoy your moments. Don’t expect more. And maybe the right match will cross your path..
H Alexandra, A few years ago, I too had pretty much given up the idea of finding somebody who could truly complement my lifestyle. While I make no proclamations (it’s not my style), I’m pleased to say anything is possible. ??
Well, biologically speaking, guys prefer women who they think will be able to raise good children. Somehow you seem to think that freedom is rooted in endless travel with no end in sight. That’s a certain kind of freedom, but, unless you know what you want out of it, it’s honestly unproductive. Guys perceive your inability to stay in one place for too long as a noncommittal attitude. If you can’t commit to any one place, who can say you’ll commit to a long-term relationship? So, it’s not them; it’s you.
Sure, people can and do meet the right match, but the chances are low. Basically, anyone who makes advances on you.
This is the thing about “modern” women- biology could explain away a lot of your romantic issues and issues in general.
It’s going to be hard for you to find a guy who will stay with you forever because, as you said, you are walking red flags, unfortunately. I repeat: your nomadic lifestyle bespeaks your lack of commitment. That’s unattractive.
Speaking for myself, I was a ‘gypsy’ as my friends would say, from the time I was a teen. That came to a stop when I was raising my family, and continued after they left home. I have no problem committing to a job, a husband or children. But you have a very narrow minded view…not every nomad is a woman, not every woman wants children. Sometimes we are actually born to have a further purpose than just existing for someone’s desire lol. And not every person that is alone is lonely. There are more lonely ppl in unions than those that are single, I assure you! That’s what makes the world a beautiful place – you cannot place your values and ideals on someone else. Your idea of happiness is another’s nightmare. There is a lid for every pot. There is so much more to say but you don’t get it, just as I don’t get your way of thinking. I enjoy a conversation of different opinions, but when it started with assumptions and insults…..hmmmmm.